In his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Steven Covey explains the benefits of the Habits:
"In harmony with the natural laws of growth, they provide an incremental, sequential, highly integrated approach to the development of personal and interpersonal effectiveness. They move us progressively on a Maturity Continuum from dependence to independence to interdependence....they become the basis of a person's character, creating an empowering center of correct maps from which an individual can effectively solve problems, maximize opportunities, and continually learn and integrate other principles in an upward spiral of growth."
This is the kind of management program that would drive me to use crystal meth.
What would the world be like - at work, at home, in conflict and in love - if everyone chose to be polite, but direct? Compare the work of British poet Carol Ann Duffy. There is no doubt about what she is thinking and feeling:
Words, Wide Night
on the other side of this wide night
and the distance between us, I am thinking of you.
The room is turning slowly away from the moon.
This is pleasurable. Or shall I cross that out and say
it is sad? In one of the tenses I singing
an impossible song of desire that you cannot hear.
La lala la. See? I close my eyes and imagine the dark hills I would have to cross
to reach you. For I am in love with you
and this is what it is like or what it is like in words .
Think about last week. Would it/Could it have gone any more smoothly if someone (or you) had just been straightforward (but polite) about something that was on your mind?