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December 07, 2009

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Missy

Oh hell, Heidi (and yes, I'm late to commenting. that's because NOBODY can do it all, and that's whether or not you have kids.)

People are insensitive as hell, and for that, I'm sorry.

Oh, and I'd kill for a high capacity washer and TWO great dryers. And a troll or something to fold the clothing and put it away in the end...

stephanie

i can relate to this on so many levels. and, if we're being honest, i've often judged other women on their parenting choices. not something i'm proud of right now. sometimes it's all just overwhelming.

Heidi

It's interesting, I was perfectly o.k. with not having children until that steady chorus, from all these other people (who, I know, shouldn't matter) began.

Cynthia Treen

Thank you... I am tired too.... It is just too much sometimes. I do what I love and love what I do but I am also lost, struggle with the future and have no savings. I keep thinking if I keep at my work it will pay me back financially and fulfill me simultaneously. It is a carrot on a string that keeps me from spending the quality time I need and want with family and friends (and keeps my laundry unfinished)... I am quick to well up and not know why. I blame it all month long on hormones but honestly that can not be it. I am embarrassed to feel this way, I have so much more than so many but as my mother always said " No one ever said it would be easy"
Thank you Heidi... It is refreshingly honest to be honest. I am so sorry for your "failure" What a useless bedside manner some doctors have... unbelievable!
Myself, I decided not to have children... I have always had a suspicion that I would not be able to (although I never tested it) What I have is the inner feeling that I would not be a good mother... I imagine that I am too selfish... hard to admit but true. All my life I have been told I would be such a good mother... I did not have to admit that I would not until I had someone pleading for me to be one. Life is such a strange journey. What we choose and what is chosen for us... sometimes I think they blur together.

Linda Patterson

What happened to the big, strong, man I married? After the ceremony, he turned into a child to take care of. Someone who needs to be fed, clothed, picked up after. I thought I was getting more.

Lashondra

My feelings can better be summed-up by a conjured reenactment from my favorite not-made-for-TV hit movie, "American Beauty", starring Annette Notbaxter-Bening and Kevin Spacey..
"I will sell this house today. I will sell this house today. I will sell this house today." And maybe the dinner scene too.

Lashondra

My feelings can better be summed-up by a conjured reenactment from my favorite not-made-for-TV hit movie, "American Beauty", starring Annette Notbaxter-Bening and Kevin Spacey...
"I will sell this house today. I will sell this house today. I will sell this house today." And maybe the dinner scene too.

Lashondra

Honest. If I were truly honest, I'd have no job, no husband, family wouldn't take my calls, and friends wouldn't claim me. So, I have to filter my disappointments.

I can't figure out how to have it all and be it all. I just do what I can every day. And I cherish the weekends, because I get them. I don't have to work a second job or a third job or tend to some other dreadful commitment during that time.

I'm totally uninteresting at dinner parties.

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